The first time I sang in the church choir two hundred people changed their religion.
If at first you don't succeed... so much for skydiving.
If at first you don't succeed blame your parents.
When I eventually met Mr. Right I had no idea that his first name was Always.
In comic strips the person on the left always speaks first.
Get your facts first then you can distort them as you please.
But as I was saying from my experiences I think men tend to be more timid in expressing their feelings for you. Regardless I always prefer a friendship first and foremost.
I came to Venice for the first time in 1968 and was lucky enough to make the acquaintanceship and then the friendship of two Venetians Roberta and Franco who remain my best friends here after almost 50 years.
My first experiences of academic friendship made me smile in after years when I looked back on them. But my circle of acquaintances had gradually grown so large that it was only natural new friendships should grow out of it.
If you're going through friendship issues I would say first of all take a step back. How important is the friendship to you? Sometimes if someone's not being a good friend to you and isn't treating you the way you should be treated then you kind of have to move on sometimes.