I'm always told that what I say is controversial. Why is it controversial? Because I speak from a tradition that has now fallen out of favor with the dominant media in this country. And so when I say things like marriage should be between one man and one woman I'm called a bigot.

There are many things that keep me from getting married. But there will be a time when marriage makes sense to me.

But I will agree that I think that things happen with people in relationships that you might have been able to enjoy Morocco say if you weren't getting out of a bad marriage. You know what I mean?

On both 'The Bachelor' and 'The Bachelorette ' it seems like proposing marriage is equivalent to saying 'Let's date.' Everyone knows those aren't the same things.

Marriage is a lot of things - a source of love security the joy of children but it's also an interpersonal battlefield and it's not hard to see why: Take two disparate people toss them together in often-confined quarters add the stresses of money and kids - now lather rinse repeat for the rest of your natural life. What could go wrong?

If your neighbor has a completely different view on abortion gay marriage stem cell research all of those things you still are both Americans. Neither one of you is necessarily more patriotic than the other. Neither loves their country any more than the other one does.

That a marriage ends is less than ideal but all things end under heaven and if temporality is held to be invalidating then nothing real succeeds.

Spending only what the country can afford rewarding savings encouraging independence supporting marriage: people know that these things are common sense.

Marriage brings up all the things I pushed to the back burner - the fears the mistrust the doubts the insecurities. It's like opening Pandora's box.

Sometimes I bust out and do things so permanent. Like tattoos and marriage.