I find forgiveness to be really healthy.
It is always the case that when the Christian looks back he is looking at the forgiveness of sins.
The schools would fail through their silence the Church through its forgiveness and the home through the denial and silence of the parents. The new generation has to hear what the older generation refuses to tell it.
We win by tenderness. We conquer by forgiveness.
If Jesus Christ was who He claimed to be and He did die on a cross at a point of time in history then for all history past and all history future it is relevant because that is the very focal point for forgiveness and redemption.
God's forgiveness allows us to be honest with ourselves. We recognize our imperfections admit our failures and plead to God for clemency.
Forgiveness to the injured does belong but they ne'er pardon who have done wrong.
We cannot embrace God's forgiveness if we are so busy clinging to past wounds and nursing old grudges.
I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It's a gift you give yourself.
The fact is there is forgiveness for those who seek God. And I believe in the power of redemption.