Allowing children to show their guilt show their grief show their anger takes the sting out of the situation.

My heart is so light that it's amazing. I get to play all this grief all this loss all this disaster and chaos. It's hysterically funny. I am very light.

But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone.

Grief can't be shared. Everyone carries it alone. His own burden in his own way.

If you've got to my age you've probably had your heart broken many times. So it's not that difficult to unpack a bit of grief from some little corner of your heart and cry over it.