Marriage has been defined by every legislature that has ever sat in the United States from every State now 50 States the same way but now we have unelected judges altering and changing that fundamental institution.

Marriage and the creation of families has been an integral part of our society since its creation it should not be defined without the kind of involvement by the people which a constitutional process would require.

There are more than 30 states who either by statute or constitutional amendment have defined marriage as being between a man and a woman.

If marriage can be redefined so that it no longer means a man and a woman but two men or two women why stop there? Why not allow three men or a woman and two men to constitute a marriage?

Thousands of years and many civilizations have defined a marriage as the union between one man and one woman. With few exceptions those civilizations that did not follow that perished.

Redefining marriage will have huge implications for what is taught in our schools and for wider society. It will redefine society since the institution of marriage is one of the fundamental building blocks of society. The repercussions of enacting same-sex marriage into law will be immense.

Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.

Marriage as an institution developed from rape as a practice. Rape originally defined as abduction became marriage by capture. Marriage meant the taking was to extend in time to be not only use of but possession of or ownership.

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