At the end the realization is that she had to get to a place in her life where she could drop her guard and make peace with the fact that whether she had a small amount of time that she had to kind of live it completely through instead of living by the rules.
To insure peace of mind ignore the rules and regulations.
There are no absolute rules of conduct either in peace or war. Everything depends on circumstances.
Don't reward bad behavior. It is one of the first rules of parenting. During the financial cataclysm of 2008 we said it differently. When we bailed out banks that had created their own misfortune we called it a 'moral hazard ' because the bailout absolved the bank's bad acts and created an incentive for it to make the same bad loans again.
Thus anybody who follows this nature and gives way its states will be led into quarrels and conflicts and go against the conventions and rules of society and will end up a criminal.
Plot rules nor even poetry are not half so great beauties in tragedy or comedy as a just imitation of nature of character of the passions and their operations in diversified situations.
No tendency is quite so strong in human nature as the desire to lay down rules of conduct for other people.
The chess-board is the world the pieces are the phenomena of the universe the rules of the game are what we call the laws of Nature. The player on the other side is hidden from us.
Retaliation is related to nature and instinct not to law. Law by definition cannot obey the same rules as nature.
The Artist is he who detects and applies the law from observation of the works of Genius whether of man or Nature. The Artisan is he who merely applies the rules which others have detected.