I honestly believe you can never tell if a relationship is going to last. In my own marriage which is going on 14 years I don't think of it as 'I'm going to be with this person forever.' Instead I think of more like 'I'll probably be with this person for the next six weeks. Then I'll re-evaluate.'
I think the institute of marriage is a noble thing. The idea of a partner for life is incredibly romantic. But now we're living to 100. A hundred years ago people were dying at age 37. Til death do us part was a much different deal.
I went nearly 30 years without being able to really seriously entertain marriage or a family. In fact the word 'marriage' would actually give me a shake when it was brought up.
After 45 years of marriage when I have an argument with my wife if we don't agree we do what she wants. But when we agree we do what I want!
I know that the odds are against a marriage lasting 60 years.
My argument is simple which is that for several thousand years in Western civilization marriage has been the union of one man and one woman. Research is overwhelming that children need mothers and fathers.
My marriage had been impulsive. That marriage should have been short-lived instead of the 23 years it spanned.
I don't want marriage. You know why? Because I did that. I did it for 32 years.
My kids have moved more in their twenties you know than my parents have moved in nearly 40-something years of marriage before they died. So there's a part of me that laments what we have lost and that is a sense of community.
People try much less hard to make a marriage work than they used to fifty years ago. Divorce is easier.