It won't take 40 years for opposition to same-sex marriage to dissipate.

When the first fossils began to be found in eastern Africa in the late 1950s I thought what a wonderful marriage this was biology and anthropology. I was around 16 years old when I made this particular choice of academic pursuit.

I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved doesn't make another person feel loved.

I did know Ted Hughes and I partly wrote the book to explain to myself and others the complexities of a marriage that was for six years wonderfully productive of poetry and then ended in tragedy.

Instead I think over the years we have cut the strength of marriage and relationships by the law and weakened the institution. We have tried to deal with relationships with no-fault divorce with child custody with so many other avenues and it has not helped.

I mean for all of his faults and the troubles in his marriage Bill Clinton is still married to a girl he met in the library 25 years ago at school. Can we say that about many of our other leaders today in America including on the right wing?

Thousands of years and many civilizations have defined a marriage as the union between one man and one woman. With few exceptions those civilizations that did not follow that perished.

After 14 years it better be a real marriage you know? We do have a great time together. We are really lucky.

My father was a soldier and my mother was a great mover. She once counted up how many places she had lived in during the first 25 years of her marriage and it came to 20.

I've exchanged messages and photos of an explicit nature with about six women over the last three years. For the most part these communications took place before my marriage though some have sadly took place after. To be clear I have never met any of these women or had physical relationships at any time.