My parents had an arranged marriage as did so many other people when I was growing up. My father came and had a life in the United States one way and my mother had a different one and I was very aware of those things. I continue to wonder about it and I will continue to write about it.

I think the institute of marriage is a noble thing. The idea of a partner for life is incredibly romantic. But now we're living to 100. A hundred years ago people were dying at age 37. Til death do us part was a much different deal.

You have to work for everything. Marriage should not be any different.

Well you know I think a lot of us in marriage know that you play different roles at different times. And Mitt can get very intense and I can have the ability to kind of talk him off the rails sometimes and say 'Hey let's look at what is really important and let's do that now.'

Brands mature over time like a marriage. The bond you feel with your spouse is different than when you first met each other. Excitement and discovery are replaced by comfort and depth.

Now I'm a wife and a mother of two. It's a really different role. I always referred to No Doubt as a marriage because that's what it's like to be together for so long and go through what we've been through. I can't really have that relationship with them anymore.

If your neighbor has a completely different view on abortion gay marriage stem cell research all of those things you still are both Americans. Neither one of you is necessarily more patriotic than the other. Neither loves their country any more than the other one does.

I can look back at different times in my life when I felt I could not find my way out of whatever it was. I'm not necessarily talking about marriage but I wanted to pack it in. I wanted to disappear. A lot of that has to do with being in the public eye.

A good marriage is different to a happy marriage.

Those who condemn gay marriage yet are silent or indifferent to the breakdown of marriage and divorce are in my view missing the real issue.