Having a child makes you strong and gives you chutzpah. It relaxed my attitude to the job my center of focus shifted which I think is very helpful because even if you're not a very indulgent actor you spend a lot of time thinking about yourself. I don't think that is particularly healthy.
Bob Altman had this relaxed but serious attitude. Everybody loved him. I wanted him to adopt me.
James Franco has this interesting and relaxed look. It's pretty 'I don't care ' but it still looks good. Ryan Gosling also has amazing style. I take a lot of my fashion tips from those two. In my opinion they're the ones getting it right.