I don't treat the band like I'm above them or that they're a hired hand for me. We've never worked that way. So I'm a team player. I would be very uncomfortable having to do this alone.
Some players you pat their butts some players you kick their butts some players you leave alone.
Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.
In 1981 at age 31 I was voted the best player in basketball and the most valuable player in the league.
At a young age winning is not the most important thing... the important thing is to develop creative and skilled players with good confidence.