I look back to when I got divorced in the late 1970s. When that happened I was so broken up. After that I decided to seek God for my life and my next marriage.

You never go into a marriage expecting to get divorced. You go into a marriage expecting it's going to last forever and you have a lot of ways you dream about the future. You have all these expectations and then you have to adjust those expectations and it can be a very unnerving confusing time.

Do the bishops seriously imagine that legalising gay marriage will result in thousands of parties to heterosexual marriages suddenly deciding to get divorced so they can marry a person of the same sex?

I find it disturbing that the media keeps referring to my marriage since I got divorced in 1979. But the media never wants to let me forget.

I think like any marriage especially when you've had divorced parents like myself you want to try even harder to make it work.

Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left.

Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do.

When people get married because they think it's a long-time love affair they'll be divorced very soon because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of a spiritual identity.

So the news that divorced fathers are to be denied a legal right to a relationship with their children in the long overdue review of family law published this week fills me with horror and despair.

In the end my pursuit of the elusive New York State driver's license became about much more than a divorced woman's learning to drive for the first time.