I'm a little skeptical about using the Constitution this way but I also believe marriage is between a man and a woman and that the courts shouldn't legislate this matter.

It was not a healthy marriage for long time. It was never about another man it was about what my and Dennis's relationship could not sustain.

I mean for all of his faults and the troubles in his marriage Bill Clinton is still married to a girl he met in the library 25 years ago at school. Can we say that about many of our other leaders today in America including on the right wing?

People ask what the secret of a happy marriage is. If there is one it's 'don't talk about it.'

So I really did stop and change what I saw I was about and really try to put that principle into play as the center of everything - my friendships my marriage my career my family my way of being in the world. And that changed everything for me.

When I first started talking about gay marriage most people in the gay community looked at me as if I was insane or possibly a fascist reactionary.

I was one of 14 senators to vote against the Defense of Marriage Act. I thought it was a harsh and unnecessary thing to do to people across this country who care enough about each other to want to be married.

I don't know what makes a marriage work. My husband and I don't have it right at all it's very tough on him. From the outside it looks like it's all about me - I have a glorious career and he doesn't.

You never go into a marriage expecting to get divorced. You go into a marriage expecting it's going to last forever and you have a lot of ways you dream about the future. You have all these expectations and then you have to adjust those expectations and it can be a very unnerving confusing time.

I'm not really interested in thinking about marriage or kids at all.