I remember getting this scrapbook that this girl made that I actually gave to my mom to hold onto because she has a 'Twilight' shrine in their house in Florida. It was just this scrapbook of me starting with 'Twilight ' and the whole progression of me and my career throughout that and other stuff that I had done in between.

Take motherhood: nobody ever thought of putting it on a moral pedestal until some brash feminists pointed out about a century ago that the pay is lousy and the career ladder nonexistent.

As a player I was fortunate to work with coaching and medical staffs that underscored the importance of utilizing injury prevention exercises which contributed to my healthy and long playing career.

So I really did stop and change what I saw I was about and really try to put that principle into play as the center of everything - my friendships my marriage my career my family my way of being in the world. And that changed everything for me.

I don't know what makes a marriage work. My husband and I don't have it right at all it's very tough on him. From the outside it looks like it's all about me - I have a glorious career and he doesn't.

I guess because the shows were activist in their own way - the marriage of my public activism and my career activism you know - people understand me very well. They also understand there's a very strong bipartisan part in all of this.

Success is hard in general for most women. We now have such busy lives and we're told we can do everything - you know we can have the relationship and the marriage and the kids and the career.

There's already a marriage clock a career clock a biological clock. Sometimes being a woman feels like standing in the lobby of a hotel looking at the dials depicting every time zone in the world behind the front desk - except they all apply to you and all at once.

I was looking very much for a career. My second marriage to Stan Herman had ended and I wanted very much to be independent not take alimony from him be on my own do the right thing.

I put my career in second place throughout both my marriages and it suffered. I don't regret it. You make choices. If you want a good marriage you must pay attention to that. If you want to be independent go ahead. You can't have it all.