I think that the majority of messages are validating messages to confirm the survival of conscious. And many times that validation message is negative or sad.

Religion is the sole technique for the validating of values.

I enjoy my relationship with straight men. It's very nurturing. It's very validating to hang out with straight guys and be accepted. So many of us we were not accepted when we were younger by straight persons in high school.

That a marriage ends is less than ideal but all things end under heaven and if temporality is held to be invalidating then nothing real succeeds.