I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It means somebody's passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn't mind leading.
No you're not allowed to be bossy when you're married. You have to learn compromise and compassion and patience.
In fact it works the other way: A government as big and bossy as this one is maintained on the backs of the middle class and those who hope to join it.
My generation of bossy confident baby-boom women were something brand new in history. Our energy and assertiveness weren't created by Betty Friedan unknown before her 1963 book or by Gloria Steinem whose political activism as even the Lifetime profile admitted did not begin until 1969.