Absence from those we love is self from self - a deadly banishment.
The young think that failure is the Siberian end of the line banishment from all the living and tend to do what I then did - which was to hide.
I feel sorry sometimes for these sportsmen and women who put in just as much effort as the footballers. For example athletes train at least as hard as footballers but have to be happy if they can earn enough to finance a decent education.