No man is regular in his attendance at the House of Commons until he is married.
Here class attendance is expected and students are required to take notes which they are tested on. What is missing it seems to me is the use of knowledge the practical training.
Another parent's different approach raises the possibility that you've made a mistake with your child. We simply can't tolerate that because we fear that any mistake no matter how minor could have devastating consequences. So we proclaim the superiority of our own choices. We've lost sight of the fact that people have preferences.