A girl came up to me in a bar and said she wanted to be my apple pie. I wish I'd said something cool but I was stunned.

I can't be a hypocrite as a coach because as a player that's what I wanted. I wanted feedback I wanted communication from the boss. I showed up for work you can yell at me if you want but I want input. So that's the kind of coach I want to be.

I'd be happy to be taken as a woman - and that's what I was initially trying to do when I started throwing on dresses and stuff. But that wasn't going to happen because everyone kept calling me sir. So I thought I'd change the method and just start wearing what I wanted to wear.

I moved to New York last year and I love it. It's a huge change and I've always wanted to spend time there. It's like a more intense London and everything's up a few notches. The lights are brighter the pace is faster and the food's better.

I've always looked the same. Since I was a child I hated having to deal with my hair. I hated having to change my clothes. As a kid I had a sailor shirt and the same old corduroy pants and that's what I wanted to wear everyday.

When I was at drama school I wanted to change the world and thought I had some great wisdom to impart to people about humanity. Now that I'm older I know enough to realise that I know nothing at all.

I didn't want to go out and change anything. I just wanted to make the music that was part of my background which was rock and blues and hip-hop.

I was married to someone who wanted me to change. Become more adult more responsible. I began not to like myself not like what I do. I lost my identity. Everything began collapsing around me.

I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.

We are taught you must blame your father your sisters your brothers the school the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.