I know it sounds new age-y but what I've truly come up with is that you really need to trust that you're on your own path as long as you stay true to it and you show up which is 99% of it.
Woman is fine for her own satisfaction alone. No man will admire her the more no woman will like her the better for it. Neatness and fashion are enough for the former and a something of shabbiness or impropriety will be most endearing to the latter.
