When you are studying jazz the best thing to do is listen to records or listen to live music. It isn't as though you go to a teacher. You just listen as much as you can and absorb everything.
I think it would be a lot easier if I said 'I feel like a dude ' but I was raised by a southern mom so I know how to put on lipstick and walk in heels and rock that look. It's exactly that juxtaposition that confuses people.
