Their lives have been largely defined by failure and you would think the prospect of marriage which is supposed to be bountiful and hopeful it's just really another kind of tangential thing in his life.
As children as we learn what things are we are slowly learning to dismiss them visually. As adults entirely submerged in words and concepts we spend almost all of our time thinking and worrying about the past and the future hardly ever looking at or engaging with the world visually.
